Name: Steve Mensing

Topic: Tanno & What do I want

Sent: 10:11 AM - 10/23 2000

Tanno:

Join the march. This not knowing what you want is a universal challenge for many. The offices of vocational counselors are chock full of folks who want to know: "What do I want?"

You are searching for a verifying feeling and yet have not found one.

You won't likely find it in most vocational counselor's offices. They may provide you with a "Strong Inventory" which may give you some clue about what you might enjoy doing. The inventory is fairly accurate, yet it won't supply you with that elusive feeling: Is this right for me?

Some tips on getting in touch with what you want whether a job or another person to form a bond with:

* Certain feelings and thoughts may be blocking you from noticing what you want. Are you feeling distracted when you search for this elusive verifying feeling?

*Are you looking for something you feel good about or do you desire a driving passion? Do you tend to pick apart or do a lot of examining of what you want? Do you play do I love them or love them not? Like daisy pulling about a potential relationship? If you do, you may be anxious about the meaning of relationships in general.

* Is committing to a long-term course of action or a realtionship spawn some butterflies? This problem beyond a problem can put a damper on feeling good or even passionate about work or being with someone.

* Do you ever have feelings of being trapped in situations or feeling suffocated by a relationship? These can block feeling turned on by a vocation or relationship. These items can be cleared and transformed.

*What interests or hobbies do you have right now? Do any of those turn you on? What might hold you back from actualizing them into life pursuits? Whack those secondaries.

*What do you like to watch on tv? Read on the internet?

Do you go around in public libraries and hunt around for what turns you on. What turnes you on there?

* A good tech might be to find a comfortable chair and sit down. Pinch your right nostril shut and breath through your left nostril. Do this slowly and deeply for several minutes and relax. Recall brushing your teeth. Listening to music. Walking across a street. Watching rain from a window. Just allow yourself to relax. Let any feeling emerge. Really feel it and ask it: Hey feeling what are some of the things I might like doing. What really could turn me on? Allow the feelings to come bubbling up. Images and feelings will pop up after a time. Just pay relaxed attention to whatever comes. Jot some of the answers down. The more you accessyour unconscious, the closer you will get to your feelings about what you want. You need to spend some time alone and undisturbed. Listen closely to your unconscious. Those messages come from paying attention to your feelings.

* When you have spent sometime with yourself, ask yourself some of the following questions:

*After I find a wonderful relationship, how will I know this? What will I see? What will I hear? What will I be feeling? What other clues will I notice about my wonderful relationship?

* The moment I am fully absorbed in doing a job that really turns me on, What will I notice first? How will I describe this job to others? Where will I be? What will I feel first?

* When I look back from 5 years from now about the passionite job I found, what will I see about this job? What will I be telling others about this job? What feelings will I have?

*Also there are trade paperbacks out their containing vocational apptitude tests and inventories about interests. This may can your feelings going.

Let us know how this works out, Steve